When raising children, we must sometimes use a stern demeanor and strict discipline. However, we must also retain our love and purity of heart. 

We must remember that the purpose of our efforts is not to maintain control of our homes, and certainly not to gain the upper hand over our children. 

It is to raise them as emotionally balanced and productive members of society.

We discipline our children not to destroy them (because harsh discipline can shatter their emotions, causing fear and lack of confidence to take root in their emotional being).

We should keep in mind that we discipline our children for the sake of empowering them. 

Remembering this ensures that our discipline is effective and laced with love.

Sometime it may feel like it is hard to demonstrate love for a child even while disciplining him or her.

There is a saying that says that; there is a time for everything: a time for love, and a time for discipline. 

When love is called for, it is disastrous to address the child with firm discipline. Conversely, when discipline is delivered with loving softness, the message is diluted and the child is left confused.

Woe to parents who discipline out of anger and, in their rage, forget their love. 

A harsh word or angry action, once expressed, can never be taken back—and worse, can affect a child for life. 

Discipline should be meted out only with love. The love can be in the forefront, or in the background, but there must always be love.



Article Take from Chabad.org – Edited and rearranged by Conscious lifestyle