A protocol of a family is the moral order in which a family is structured.

This moral order involves also the disciplining method that the parents use to morally structure their children.

In a healthy family which contains more than four members including the parents, there must be rules or a protocol that enable’s the members to share the responsibility of work done in the family.

The parents doing all the house work, and not letting the children to help out, this sows a seed or mindset into the children’s thoughts, which makes them to think that every thing must be done for them.

Remember that; what the children learn from their parents in the family, will become the reflection of how the children act outside of the family.

The way I treat my wife, will become the way my son will treats his wife.

The way I treat my wife, will become the type of husband that my daughters will desire to mary.

Teaching the principle of respect and the order of asking in the family is very important.


The children should know that they are not entitled to get every thing they ask or cry for, lack of discipline in that area will make them think that everything (toys, new gargets, candies, etc) which they see beeing advertised or dispayed in shops, is for them to own or to posses.


We have counseled couples where the father feels ignored and left out in the family, due to the fact that the love of the mother towards the children was limitless, having no boundaries and willing to do what ever the children were crying for. 

When the father tried to bring order in the house, he became the one who was not allowing the children to do what they felt was good for them.

When a father and mother agrees on certain issues pertaining to the protocol on how they will carry out the principles of discipline for their family.

That agreement of two people will become an influence of moral instructions that enables the children to accept the good advice of their parents, teachers and leaders in the community.

But when that agreement is lacking, that is when the manipulative negative traits of the children, (negative traits like; narcissism, tantrum, lies, etc) will become the over dominating energy that controls the family.
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Article written by Ap Ngabo alex